Long-distance relationships: why the smallest things mean the most

Tuesday, 7 August 2018

Long-Distance Relationships: Why the Smallest Things Mean the Most
Anyone who's been in a long-distance relationship before will understand how challenging and different it feels to seeing your partner day in day out. Since I graduated last year, I've been in a long-distance relationship with my wonderful boyfriend who's still at university in Southampton. We'd already been together almost 9 months by the time I graduated, and during final year I really leaned on him as I struggled through my final year of studies.

Suddenly, I was out in the working world and at most I was seeing him twice, or at really busy times, once a month. I found this really difficult given that at times during final year, I was practically living at his house. Being in a long-distance relationship means for most couples that you really have to enjoy every moment of a weekend with each other and I feel so grateful and excited when I do get to see him, even if it's for a short amount of time.

When you both have busy and sometimes stressful lives, you have to work harder to make time to spend quality time with your partner and fit around each other's schedules. There are evenings when all I really need is a cuddle with him and a catch-up, especially if I've had a rubbish day. It's important that we both make the effort to share little nuggets of our day with each other to keep the lines of communication as open as possible. Often, it's the smaller and more thoughtful gestures that make all the difference, such as a video call out of the blue or funny pictures (read: dog memes) that brighten my day. 

However, my favourite thing to do is to order a surprise present for him, just to remind him that I'm thinking about him. The effect is two-fold for me, especially if I actually manage to keep his present a surprise - I normally cave and tell him what it is because I get so excited for him to receive it! This could be as small as his favourite American sweets, a t-shirt from his favourite clothes brand or something more over the top if I want to! 

Recently, I had the opportunity to surprise Jack again which coincided perfectly with an upcoming trip to visit to Cornwall to see him and his family. bakerdays is a genius little company based in Nottingham and I was so excited to try their Letterbox Cake*, which let you create adorable personalised cakes that are compact enough to fit through your letterbox. They have so many designs to choose from, but I wanted to go simple in order to give something that looked impactful.  
The picture is from last year's holiday in Valencia, and I still love it so much. We had been on a day trip to Montanejos and we'd had no idea that the organiser taken it of us! It brings up so many happy memories, given that this was our first holiday together and we had the most perfect week away. We were impressed with the quality of the image on the cake, especially considering that it's only 5" in diameter (12cm diameter x 2.5cm high). They are specifically designed to fit through any letterbox, and are packaged incredibly securely firstly within the tin at the top and then encased in a adorable cardboard box.       

Long-Distance Relationships: Why the Smallest Things Mean the Most
Long-Distance Relationships: Why the Smallest Things Mean the Most
Once we cut the cake (it did feel a little sinister deciding where to make the first cut lol), inside was a light victoria sponge cake with strawberry jam. I was especially happy to see how thick the layer of icing was, I'm a big fan of royal icing! Being honest, I wouldn't say the sponge was as nicely textured as it could have been, and the jam was a little on the thin side. With gifts at this price point (£14.99), I'd say that you are benefitting from the novelty and convenience factor over the quality of the cake itself, but it's definitely something that could be improved.

Nevertheless, it was so much fun to be able to be creative and give something small and thoughtful to Jack that was truly personal. It meant so much more because normally, picking the perfect gift can take a lot of time and thought to get right. This would make a lovely gift for any friends and family that perhaps you don't get to see often, especially if they have a special occasion coming up! 
Are you in a long-distance relationship? What little gestures do you like to do for your partner? Tell me all!

Thanks for reading!

*This is a collaboration post with Bakerdays. I reviewed the Letterbox Gift Cake in exchange for a review. However, all opinions are my own. For more information, please visit my disclaimer.

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